Diversity and Unity

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I was privileged to be a part of Saddleback Church’s “The Gathering: Mental Illness and the Church” conference last month, a historic day sponsored together with the Roman Catholic Diocese of Orange and the National Alliance on Mentally Illness-Orange County. It was the first time the Church made the commitment on a national scale to be a physical and spiritual resource for those with mental illness.

There were notable speakers as the day was full of credible, timely information, and a focus on reducing stigma and integrating mental illness as part of the church’s scope of ministry. I was struck by the diversity of people attending and presenting at the conference. It was visibly similar to other large Christian conferences, but the many differences in the people, including their cultures, fashions, and generations was striking to me.

And yet despite the diversity, I witnessed “unity” throughout the day. “Unity” is a term we hear often, and although it is meant to speak to a positive singleness of purpose, it can also enable a wish for unhealthy uniformity and social control.

We all find comfort in uniformity, being the “same,” and being around the “same” kinds of people with the “same” thoughts. It can be a psychologically unhealthy tendency, but very human to avoid differences and conflict, and wish to be included. This can lead to unhealthy processes of shame, guilt and feeling left out for not “fitting in.”

We were not created to be uniform creatures. God created us in His image, but He rejoices and loves us in our individuality and uniquely created identity. He created us as an artist creates his masterpiece. Each work of art is unique. We were built to express and experience a separate, distinct, wonderful self, built in “His image,” but not an identical copy of others. Trying to be “the same” denies our uniqueness. It leads us away from whom and from what God created us for.

At the Saddleback conference, there was affirmation in the diversity of the human experience, in its suffering and redemption. There were stories of great pain and illness but also stories of joy. There were stories of isolation but also of connection.

As a psychiatrist, I see that diversity on a daily basis, as people suffer and heal from mental illness. At the conference, I saw this same diversity along with healthy unity. I saw that all were brought together out of diverse pain, yearning for community. There is community in the search for spiritual meaning in suffering.

This was truly a special day. There was diversity in the body, but unity in the shared acceptance of imperfection. There was community in brokenness. There was joy in communion, between those with illness, those in support of the ill, and those who were not ill but just as imperfect. It was a joy to see the church as the resource for spiritual meaning within that experience, providing communion for all who share the same hope of our Savior, who loves the broken.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3 (NIV)

Breaking the Mental Illness Stigma

1 out of 4 in America are afflicted. There are many ways the brain can fail. We know and fear medical conditions like stroke, infections and cancer, all of which can affect the brain. When it comes to depression, schizophrenia or anxiety disorders, we think of these “problems” in a different way.

The science of medicine shows us that mental illnesses are biologic processes originating in a failing brain. It is not a result of failed character, poor choices or lack of faith. They are proven to be genetic and stress related illnesses, to which all are vulnerable.

With a medical explanation, we can understand that the panic or compulsion we experience and are ashamed of, the mood swings we can’t predict, or the voices we know are not “real”; all can be symptoms of a brain function not fully completed, an error in genetic coding, a stress that the brain couldn’t process, part of a body and world that are imperfect.

If it is only a bodily organ that is imperfect, that causes the confusion, and mistaken choices, it may be that I am not a “bad” person. I am not my illness. I am just an imperfect person, one who tries to do good, please God, and grow closer to Him. If my moods and experience are keeping me from feeling the “joy of the Lord,” or if my behaviors and impulsive actions are part of an illness and not a sign that I am worse than others, then I can have hope.

This is the hope that I am broken like everyone else is broken, and I can have fellowship and connection to the body of believers, all who are broken like me.

The isolation of depression, anxiety, mood swings, and hallucinations can all be a part of illness that can be treated, and redeemed, so that I don’t have to be alone, so God and His glory can be for me too.

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. 
Romans 3:23-24 (NIV)

Beyond Pain and Suffering

A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.” Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.” He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.” The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said. He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.” “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.
Matthew 15:22-28 (NIV)
This blog is for mothers and fathers who know the anguish and desperation of the Canaanite woman’s plight, who have felt the pain of their children’s pain, and have struggled in prayer for their healing.

Whether or not God chooses to heal “at that moment,” or whether there is a prolonged process of healing, we know God can release the child from illness if He chooses. Knowing in faith that God is a loving God, we hope for a greater purpose for our child who suffers.

Is God more loving if He rewards a parent who prays for their suffering child or is He more loving if he answers the prayer of the woman who steps out in strong faith and total surrender in God?

The Canaanite woman’s request showed her full surrender in faith as well as her sacrificial love for her daughter. Jesus’ choice to heal was not a response to surrender, but to the “great faith” of the mother. God’s response is not just a demonstration of the kindness of healing the illness. The example of this healing and Jesus’ answering her plea acknowledged that she knew Him and had submitted to Him as Lord.

This shows the battle that is beyond our awareness. God’s love and compassion certainly responds to suffering and loss. But illness and suffering are not always the only priority in a period of crisis. God feels more pain and sees suffering that is beyond pain and suffering from illness. This is the eternal suffering that occurs apart from Him. His emotional reaction to this pain is stronger than the reactions He has to “regular” pain and suffering.

Does this demonstrate God’s insensitivity to pain and suffering on earth? If we believe a loving God, the answer requires a “next level” of understanding of pain and sufferings. There is greater, more intense pain and suffering that we are often not aware of, that we don’t feel yet. This is the pain and suffering that He sees for those who choose separateness from Him eternally.

There is greater, more intense pain and suffering that we are often not aware of, that we don’t feel yet. This is the pain and suffering that He sees for those who choose separateness from Him eternally.

It is more crucial that we know Him, so we don’t experience the consequence of eternity alone. This is the greater eternal suffering and pain of which current illness is only a small taste.

He cares about our current pain and our childrens’ pains. He sees our current and future pains. Our loving God is the author of sympathy and compassion, and His vision is eternal.